Archive | August, 2015

The Ramifications Of Our Choices

12 Aug

A few days ago I wrote a post called “What Do You Choose”. It basically talked about the choices we have facing us in life and how our choices affect our lives as well as those around us.

I’ve received a few comments on the post, though not as many as I had hoped, mainly centered on the premise this is all part of growing up and I guess it is. However, I had hoped to open up your worlds to thinking before leaping, therefore preventing some disasters in the making. Too many mistakes are made because people shoot from the hip, without thinking, and end up in a fix they just can’t get themselves out of.

I wonder, is it fear of failure or fear of success? Life can throw us a curve ball once in a while. But, if life was designed to be easy, we would probably get bored. It’s the stumbling blocks that cross our paths that make for an interesting outlook on living. The most important thing to remember is we all have a purpose for being here and we need to find our purpose in life.

It could be something as simple as extending a helping hand to someone who has fallen, a smile to someone in need, a warm hello to a stranger. Or it could also be something as critical as being a surgeon or doctor saving someone’s life. The thing is we are all unique and each have something special to add to someone’s life and to the world. Because of this it is important that we take the time to measure the pros and cons of the choice we are about to make. We only get one life so we should make the best of it.

Let’s consider something my Grandfather taught me as a youngster: “Make sure you engage your brain before you engage your mouth.” How many times have you let your mouth run away with you and have to eat your words later? How many people have you hurt because you didn’t think before mouthing off on someone or about something? A little forethought before spouting off could have saved you a lot of embarrassment.

Remember, not everyone believes as you do and everyone is entitled to his or her opinion and beliefs. What is right for you just may be wrong for the person you are talking to and vice versus. So use a little common sense and think before you jump on someone’s belief.

Our world and country is very diverse, made up of all kinds of people, churches and races. Each has their own way of doing things and no one can really say one is wrong or right, compared to how you do it. Try to understand it from the other person’s viewpoint and have compassion for their belief. If we, as a people, would have a little compassion and love for how others think and live, our world may just be a little brighter.

As God has taught – Love your neighbor as yourself and as He has loved you. A little love and compassion goes a long way and a genuine smile will light up the world. Love never fails!

What do you think? Comments are always welcome.

Walk daily with God at your side!

Love,

Ed

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Taking Risks and Living Life

8 Aug

Life is full of conditions where we must choose to either take a risk or to turn and walk away. Stepping out into the unknown gives one an anxious feeling, sometimes a little excitement sometimes a little dread. Taking a chance on life, hoping it doesn’t slap you back into reality. All part of growing according to Grandfather. In life you get just about as many chances as you’re willing to take.

Almost sixty six years ago, when I told my Grandfather I was worried about taking a chance and regretting my choice, he hugged me and said, “Trust me, honey, that’s not what you’re going to regret when you’re my age.  If anything, you will likely kick yourself a little for not taking more chances on the infinite number of opportunities you have today.”

And the older I get, the more I realize how right my Grandfather was. Life is about trusting yourself and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, learning from experience, appreciating the memories, and realizing that every step is worth your while…  But you’ve got to be willing to take each step. You’ve got to give yourself a fair chance. I have put a few thoughts down that have helped me grow in life.

Trusting your intuition on new opportunities. – Life is too short to wait. Every new day is another chance to change your life. Every great accomplishment starts with the decision to try. Trust that little voice inside your head that says, “What if…” and then GO DO IT. Give yourself a fair chance. You would be surprised how often “what if” works. And no, you’re not obligated to win every time. You’re obligated to keep trying – to do the best you can do every day – to improve upon what you learned yesterday.

Believing in your own abilities. – You have everything you need within you to become the best possible version of yourself.  Believe that you CAN. Believe that you’re capable of pushing harder and farther than you have before. Believe that you’re young enough, old enough, smart enough and strong enough to achieve your goals. Don’t let false beliefs stop you from moving beyond yourself. And certainly don’t get sidetracked by other people who are not on track.

Making moves in the face of fear. – It’s often difficult to grow into your greatest self, but it’s a tragedy to let the lie of fear stop you.  So realize right now that fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in your head. Be courageous. Go after your goals. Never let your fear steer your present or decide your future.  And remember, courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is far more important than fear. 

Have faith that God is there to guide your way, – Sharing your love and kindness, extending a helping hand are all signs of faith in God and His love.

Being sincerely kind to everyone. – Kindness in words creates confidence and motivation. Kindness in thinking creates positivity and possibility. Kindness in giving creates strength and love. Through kindness you have the ability to make a profound difference in every life you touch, including your own. When you guide someone who is lost and confused, when you hold someone who is sad and grieving, when you hug someone who has lost all their hope, you too will feel yourself healing and growing stronger. So do your little bit of good right where you are, because it’s these little bits of good put together that change the world.

Helping others create a better life for themselves. – Who you affect is more powerful than who you are at any given moment. Because nothing is as enduring as a great memory. In the end, its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, and feelings that last. Stone cracks. Wood rots. Skin dies. But great thoughts, beautiful experiences, and inspiring legends… they live forever. If you can change the way people think and feel, the way they see themselves, and the way they interpret the world, it means you can change the way they live their lives, and how they affect others. That is, by far, the longest lasting thing you can create.

Living with integrity and honor. – Integrity is choosing your actions based on moral values rather than personal gain. It’s about living honorably. It’s about doing the right thing, no matter what, even when nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not. At the end of the day, your reputation is what other people know about you. Your honor is what you know about yourself.

Opening yourself to love. – Your greatest task isn’t to find love, but to discover and eliminate all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Even when you’re afraid, keep trusting – keep your heart and mind wide open. Peace is not the absence of trouble, but the presence of love. As you find the good that exists in others and situations, you discover the love that exists within you.

Closing the door on old news. – Holding on to what’s no longer there holds too many of us back. Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting the past and letting it steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let it GO! You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere worth your while. 

Taking time to simply BE where you are. – You will always be missing out on something. You simply can’t have it all.  Thus, it will always seem like something wonderful might be happening elsewhere.  And that’s OK. Let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are at this moment. You have to accept that some things will never be yours, and learn to value the things that are only yours.

Putting yourself out there and truly LIVING. – To laugh often and love genuinely. To respect others and judge less. To win the affection and sincere smiles of children. To earn the regard of honest peers and endure the betrayal of fake friends. To appreciate the beauty surrounding you wherever you are, whenever you are. To find the good in people and situations. To give what you can and leave the world a little better than you found it. To have explored ideas and passions and sung at the top of your lungs in delight. To know that at least one life has breathed easier because you have lived. Believe in your future and your future will believe in you. This is what LIVING is all about.

Walk daily with God at your side!

Love,

Ed

What Do You Choose?

3 Aug

There are few things in life we have no control over, the family you are born into, the color of your skin or your genetics ect. But for everything else we pretty much exercise complete control over our choices.

For example, when things seem to go wrong, do you look for someone or something to blame or do you look back on it and learn a lesson from what happened? It’s your choice!

It’s your choice to take a negative and turn it into a positive. It’s your choice to take something that hurts deeply and then see the joy in life. It’s your choice to turn a hateful statement into a loving embrace. We all have the choice to make a wrong right and vice versus.

Following the example Jesus set in the bible, there was very little He didn’t approach with love. He commands us to love our neighbors as ourselves and as He has loved us, yet we still see hate all around us. As Christians, we are to set the example on how to treat others, yet we still see a lack of love and understanding in our churches. I hear many times ‘to error is human, to forgive is devine’ or ‘I am only human’. These are all choices we make. They are just excuses for poor judgment.

We all have made poor judgments calls in our life and hopefully have learned from them. But these calls are choices we made where, with a little foresight and thinking, could have resulted in something more positive. Maybe if we realize that every choice we make is a reflection of our family, our Christian life, and is being used as an example by others of Christian living, we would choose better.

The reality is that everything we say or do is being watched and listened to by someone. That example of your life could affect that persons outlook on life. A thoughtless act on your part could be seen as how a Christian is to live. A slap in the face for Christianity? We determine what we choose and how we live.

I choose love! I choose to live my life with love for all and to carry the love of Jesus with me everywhere I go. I choose to spread the joy of living with everyone I meet. I choose to help others daily to make their day a little easier and happy. I choose to smile at others and say hello with love for all. Love is hope for the lost. Love never fails!

What do you choose?

Walk daily with God at your side!

Love,

Ed